Slut Shaming

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Dear Friend,

Si Vales, Valeo

You want to know if the experience you have had with “slut shaming” is typical in Thelemic fraternities? Yes. It happens all the time. Either you are not Thelemic enough, which means you are not putting out as much as the people who want to have sex with you would like, or you are too Thelemic: having way too much sex for some people that think of themselves very highly.

I still have a friend I care about very deeply who was raised in a strict Christian home who was attempting to use the archetype of Babalon, or the Scarlet Woman, as a tool to undo the guilt and trauma she experienced during her youth. Only to be ostracized by her Thelemic community. She had, as a result of her upbringing, many problems with intimacy. She was shunned by her own Brothers and Sisters.

Tell me. Shouldn’t such a community be a perfect place for a woman to undo all of the conditioning in safety and without shame or fear? If ever there was such a place as a safe space, shouldn’t the fraternity you have taken oaths to, and have supported financially and emotionally be one of those places?

Sometimes the problem is jealousy. Usually, there is a Queen Bee in the lodge that is accustomed to having men fall all over their wands to get her affection, and here comes a new woman of sexual age looking for partners. Boy does that piss them off!

Other times it may be envy from some other woman who wishes she could do what she is unable to yet free herself from the bonds of superstition and ignorance.

Other times there is a legitimate beef, especially when life-partners get involved.

But very few people are considerate enough to think that maybe, their new sister is working through some sexual perversion imposed on them by stinking-thinking? Instead they make it all about themselves.

Many Thelemites miss the point of such rituals as Liber XV, which is supposed to condition congregants to view sexuality as something holy, and visa versa. Whether Crowley meant to do that intentionally is probably up to a debate I don’t wish to have, (not my circus, not my monkeys) but after participating in Mass for many years it requires some discipline to prevent becoming aroused by religious imagery. And sexual imagery fills my head with spiritual aspiration and longing. YMMV of course. Liber XV is a beautiful ritual when it isn’t viewed as a simple T&A show.

That being said, we are all working on many things at any given time. Some people (not just women) are working on being less slutty (I have met some creeps in my day), while others are trying to shake the shame of being a sexual creature in a physical body while simultaneously trying to enter The Holy City and the societal baggage that comes with all of that.

Maybe it isn’t our jobs to judge our Brothers and Sisters (unless they are causing some sort of damage to relationships or the group in general). Maybe our jobs is to help one another, and if we play our cards right experience the ecstasy of union without the expectation of shame?

Good luck to you. Persevere. If you are truly a Scarlet Woman, the whole world will know it. And not just because of your sex. Remember that Babalon has many faces.

Pax Profunda

solis93

Gerald del Campo

Gerald Enrique del Campo (b. 1960) is a poet, musician, song writer, photographer, magician, philosopher, author, Bishop and lecturer on occult and religious topics. He was born in Córdoba, Argentina on January 14, 1960.

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